Musings from the Sickie Couch

I hate being sick.


I have the flu which is incredibly discouraging right now as it started on Friday, right before the weekend. And I REALLY needed a weekend. I had plans with friends plus I am moving soon so have a lot of packing to get done- and I had to cancel everything. I usually can muscle through a cold but this flu has zapped me big time and its, well, its pretty annoying right now to be ill.

Have you noticed when you’re sick you get negative about everything? I know many of us get grumpy or upset when we are tired and our bodies are most tired when we are fighting off being sick. I had a little bit of a meltdown brought about only by my weakened state and that negativity definitely made me feel worse.

A lot of time when I speak to young ladies or even write here, I talk about choosing your attitude and how you respond to things but how do you respond positively when you don’t even have the energy to go to CVS to get medicine? Some of you don’t need to have the flu to feel this beaten down so when I talk about choosing your attitude, you probably think this cannot apply to you. And trust me, I know…its a LOT harder when you feel weak and tired. So what can you do?

1 – Rest. The number one thing a doctor says when you’re sick is to take care of yourself. Your body is tired from fighting the infection and you need sleep to get your energy back. So let yourself rest and sleep. When you aren’t sick but feeling run down, your body is telling you that you need to rest. Be intentional about making time to rest. Even God made time to rest:

“By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy, because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.” (Genesis 2:2-3)
God blesses rest because He knows we need it. He knows how exhausting life can be and He wants you to face it with strength and wisdom. You need to figure out what helps you relax – reading a book, watching a movie, laying by a pool, taking a walk….whatever it is, identify it and when you are feeling worn out, make time for this.

2 – Be Silent.  When you know you are not at your best, you need to recognize this so it doesn’t have consequences when you do feel better. When I get tired or stressed, I cry super easily. Sometimes I am guilty of saying things I don’t really mean and then I’m faced with awkward apologies when I do feel better.  Part of growing up and maturing is being able to tell that you may not be feeling like yourself and show extra restraint when you do interact with other people. There are COUNTLESS scriptures, books and quotes about the power of the tongue and so many of us forget this when we are tired or worn out but many are summed up by this passage in Proverbs 21:23: “Whoever keeps his mouth and his tongue keeps himself out of trouble.” Don’t let your temporary tiredness be an excuse for saying or doing something that you know isn’t right or loving toward someone else.

3 – Turn to God. Maybe the best kind of rest you need is time spent with God. I’ll be honest, I don’t make enough time for God. There are many times I have a free moment and instead of taking that time to pray or read the Bible, I look at Facebook or random stuff online. Now hear me say this, there is NOTHING wrong with doing this things BUT you only have so much time in the day and I need to rethink how I spend my “free time.” I never feel replenished when I waste time on my phone or online. I always feel like I have wasted time or need to keep reading, keep checking, as if something life-changing has happened in the last 10 minutes since I last checked social media. If I even spent a third of this time turning to God instead of my phone, I know I would have more strength when I need it.  Sometimes we don’t know what we need, we just know that we are lacking something but God knows our unspoken hurt and pain.

“In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans.” (Romans 8:26)

God wants us to trust Him all the time, regardless if things are going good or bad. Just like any friendship you have, it takes time and effort. What’s cool is God won’t ditch you like other friends might. If you ignore Him, sure it makes Him sad, but He won’t leave you for someone else. Girls, we should CRAVE to spend every free moment with someone like this, with God, for this is what true loyalty looks like.



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